Neeyor will complete a year on 25th Feb. It seems just like yesterday when I first got my pregnancy confirmed. For everyone around us it was “good news” but to be brutally truthful my feelings were mixed and so was Nirav’s.
Yes! I was happy but I wasn’t elated. There were so many things in my priority list that my pregnancy almost overshadowed those. I was in the prime of my career and loved every minute of it. There were so many things in my itinerary. And now this report!
I thought to myself. I was a tad selfish to think like that and when Neeyor grows up and reads all this I know it’ll be hard for her to forgive me.
The first three months passed peacefully and I didn’t even feel there was something growing inside me. It’s only after the fifth month more or less that things started changing gradually. The slight swell in my tummy looked kinda cute you see! It’s perhaps the only time in my life that I ate like a horse; I indulged on those yummy chicken burgers from Beatrix, egg & cheese roll from Food Exx and masala dosas from Jb’s and never felt guilty even for a second about putting on weight! It was amazing to feel the kicks in my tummy. And as my pregnancy advanced at times my tummy felt like a water bed, I could see my baby move from one side to the other and it’s the most wonderful experience on earth I must say.
Neeyor came to us without many complications. I was in the hospital for only two days. Once home little did I realize that many things would change! It left me bewildered to see that a tiny little thing could bring the house down literally! She was so small, when I look at her new born pictures and the home videos I recollect every moment.
One thing I understood is giving birth is just the prelude. The actual story begins post birth!
The worse thing is perhaps the “advices” one gets from all and sundry. And poor me! I thought people gave advices only during pregnancy. Gosh! It almost made me mad.
The only time I got a no-nonsense advice is from my brother-in-law. We were in Bangalore and seated across the dining table. He told me “the moment you choose to be patient with your child in reality means you’ve already lost it!”
And on another occasion he said “give Neeyor the liberty to make mistakes. That’s how she’ll learn”.
Neeyor’ll be a year old soon and believe me folks these are the only two advises I’ve remembered.
And for the new parents or the soon to be parents reading this besides these two sturdy advices you’ve got to trust
- your gynecologist
- your baby’s pediatrician
- and of course your instincts.
You can never go wrong. – believe me …
